Tigers new world of treatment

By Associated PressJanuary 27, 2010, 11:42 pm

Hello, I’m Tiger Woods and I’m a sex addict.

Those might be the toughest words Woods ever had to say, assuming, ofcourse, he stood up and said them at a clinic in Mississippi.

That’s also assuming Woods is currently residing at the Pine GroveBehavioral Health and Addiction Services clinic in Hattiesburg, though photostaken by a certain tabloid suggest it to be true. If so, the world’s greatestgolfer is under the care of a superstar in his own field, sexual addictiontreatment pioneer Patrick Carnes.

Unfortunately for Woods, greatness on the greens doesn’t count in grouptherapy. Unlike golf, he has hardly any way of controlling what goes on.

It begins the same way for all. You can’t be treated until you acknowledgethere’s a problem.

“I don’t know if he can stand up and say it,” said celebrity shrink Dr.Drew Pinsky, who hosted a TV sexual addiction reality show. “But it’s a keycomponent of these things.”

For now, the frantic hype over where Woods is has begun to subside, if onlybecause the consensus is that he indeed is behind guarded gates. The paparazzihave, for the most part, left Hattiesburg, driven out by a new fence encirclingthe clinic and the fact the money shot has already been taken.

Desperate times reportedly drove Woods to a place he never would haveimagined.

It’s easy to see why. There’s no driving range, no chipping green to work onthe short game. So far, no one has spotted Woods at the nearby athletic clubwhere patients sometimes pump a little iron.

And if Woods thought preparing for the Masters was tough, he’s likely nowspending long days filled with lectures, group sessions and the ever-present12-step program every patient must conquer. Patients must dress a certain way,address each other a certain way and, most importantly, can never touch anotherpatient without permission.

Cell phones are left at home.

“These kind of programs are very structured,” said Maureen Canning, aclinical consultant for sexual compulsive programs at the Meadows treatmentfacility in Arizona. “It’s basically a 12-hour day every day, plus homework.”

Treatment centers like the Meadows and Pine Grove are places where peopleend up only when the consequences are so painful they have no choice. For someit’s divorce, while for others it’s a lost job, jail or even disease.

International scorn? Well, that, too.

Indeed, for Woods the pain has to be magnified by the fact he’s such apublic figure. People cheered his every move, dreamed of what it would be liketo be him.

Behind it all, though, may have lurked a very different person.

“Most sex addicts are extremely lonely emotionally,” Canning said. “Theylook really good. They’re intelligent, bright and personable. But emotionally,they’re lonely because they don’t know how to feel feelings or allow anyoneclose. They confuse the intensity of sex with that of intimacy.”

Canning says the best part of her job is helping a patient sift through hisor her life to find the underlying reasons behind the addiction. For almost all,she says, there was a traumatic incident in childhood, anything from beingspanked to more extreme things.

Often, it has something to do with the parent of the opposite sex.

That, at least, is Carnes’ theory and that of his followers in a relativelynew field. There are other skeptics who believe the whole thing is a bunch ofpsycho babble and that some people, mostly men, are inclined to want to have sexwith reasonably attractive people of the opposite sex because it’s in their DNAto do so.

The American Psychiatric Association does not list sex addiction as adiagnosable mental disorder, and there are no real statistics on how many peopleit might affect or the cure rate.

“It is what alcohol was 25 or 30 years ago,” Canning said. “People don’twant to talk about it and, because of the shame, people don’t have a lot ofplaces to go. They stay isolated in their pain and behavior.”

If Woods is to change that behavior, his wife, Elin, likely will need toplay a role. Spouses are encouraged to join some of the therapy because they areconsidered part of the overall problem.

“There’s a reason that person chose to be with that identified addict andthat tells you that person needs to do a bit of work, too,” said Pinsky, anaddiction specialist and longtime radio advice show host. “It’s often difficultto get them to do so because they’re thinking ‘Why should I be doing anythingwhen I’m so betrayed?’ But you do hope in Tiger’s case that his wife commits tothe relationship and appreciates the effort.”

The six weeks of inpatient therapy is just the beginning for a program thatcan stretch up to five years.

This long-term program is much like one for alcohol or drug addiction, whichmeans making sure Woods’ environment is structured so he doesn’t have the urgeor opportunity for sex outside his marriage. Usually that involves havingsomeone around to make sure he stays out of trouble and keeps up with his12-step meetings.

That can be tricky for someone who travels around the world to make aliving, especially if his wife and kids aren’t along. Woods will have to abideby new rules, and his Las Vegas haunts will surely be out.

He may find it particularly difficult to adjust to a confining lifestylewhile trying to regain his dominance on the golf course.

The reward is that it may be the only thing that can save his marriage.

The bonus is that it may some day also help salvage his reputation.

Tim Dahlberg is a sports columnist for The Associated Press. Write to him attdahlberg(at)ap.org

Cabreras take 1-shot lead in Father/Son

By Associated PressDecember 16, 2017, 11:23 pm

ORLANDO, Fla. - Two-time major champion Angel Cabrera and Angel Cabrera Jr. birdied their last three holes for a 13-under 59 to take a one-shot lead Saturday in the PNC Father-Son Challenge.

Cabrera, a Masters and U.S. Open champion, is making his debut in this popular 36-hole scramble. His son said he practiced hard for 10 days. What helped put him at ease was watching his father make so many putts.

''We combined very well,'' Cabrera said. ''When I hit a bad shot, he hit a good one. That's the key.''

They had a one-shot lead over Mark O'Meara and Shaun O'Meara, who are playing for the first time. That included a birdie on the last hole, which O'Meara attributed to the strength of his son.

''My little man hit it 58 yards by me on the 18th,'' said O'Meara, the Masters and British Open champion in 1998. ''It's a little easier coming in with a 6-iron.''

Defending champions David Duval and Nick Karavites rallied over the back nine at the Ritz-Carlton Golf Club for a 61. They are trying to become the first father-son team to repeat as winners since Bernhard and Stefan Langer in 2006. Larry Nelson won two years in a row in 2007 and 2008, but with different sons.

''I'd imagine we have to break 60 tomorrow to have a chance to win, but hey, stranger things have happened,'' Duval said. ''I've even done it myself.''

Duval shot 59 at the Bob Hope Classic to win in 1999 on his way to reaching No. 1 in the world that year.

Duval and his stepson were tied with Bernhard Langer and 17-year-old Jason Langer, who made two eagles on the last five holes. This Langer tandem won in 2014.

Jack Nicklaus, playing with grandson G.T., opened with a 68.

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Woods' 2018 schedule coming into focus ... or is it?

By Golf Channel DigitalDecember 16, 2017, 5:46 pm

Two weeks after his successful return to competition at the Hero World Challenge, Tiger Woods’ 2018 schedule may be coming into focus.

Golfweek reported on Saturday that Woods hopes to play the Genesis Open in February according to an unidentified source with “direct knowledge of the situation.”

Woods’ agent Mark Steinberg declined to confirm the 14-time major champion would play the event and told GolfChannel.com that Woods – who underwent fusion surgery to his lower back in April – is still formulating his ’18 schedule.

Woods’ foundation is the host organization for the Genesis Open and the event supports the Tiger Woods Learning Center in Anaheim, Calif.

The Genesis Open would be Woods’ first start on the PGA Tour since he missed the cut last January at the Farmers Insurance Open.

Rose weathering delayed Indonesian Masters

By Associated PressDecember 16, 2017, 3:52 pm

JAKARTA, Indonesia - Justin Rose held a three-stroke lead after eight holes of the third round Saturday when play was suspended for the day due to bad weather at the Indonesian Masters.

Rose was 3-under on the day and led his playing partners Kiradech Aphibarnrat and Scott Vincent. The Englishman led both players by a stroke after the second round was completed Saturday morning due to weather delays on Friday.

Brandt Snedeker withdrew with apparent heat exhaustion on Friday on the 11th hole of the second round. Ranked 51st in the world, he flew to Jakarta looking to move inside the top 50 by the end of the year and ensure a spot in next year's Masters.

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Lexi (wrist) WDs from Diamond Resorts Invitational

By Golf Channel DigitalDecember 15, 2017, 11:27 pm

Lexi Thompson on Friday withdrew from the Diamond Resorts Invitational, citing inflammation in her wrist. Thompson, who teamed with Tony Finau to finish tied for fourth place in last week's QBE Shootout, said she is under strict doctor's order not to hit golf balls until mid-January.

The Diamond Resorts Invitational is scheduled Jan. 12-14 at Tranquilo Golf Club in Orlando, Fla. The field for te 54-hole event includes LPGA and PGA Tour Champions players, as well as celebrities from the worlds or sports and entertainment.