Positive About That

By David BreslowAugust 31, 2005, 4:00 pm
The Mental Game insights and skills influence everything you do on and off the golf course. They take practice and earnest development just like any part of your swing mechanics. Golfers are willing to go to the driving range for hours to work on their swing and the same practice is necessary to strengthen your command of the Performance Principles (although not as long!).
 
You often hear how important it is to be positive yet it seems for so many, negativity is far easier to come by than positivity. Jack is a development tour golfer who I spoke to last year. After his round he was disappointed with himself and told me it was a poor round because he double-bogeyed a par four and missed a couple of birdie putts. His description of the round was filled with frustration and disappointment. I discovered later from a friend of his that Jack shot a 3-under for the round, had several birdies and an eagle! Did Jack fail to mention these things to me? Yes.
 
It is a common tendency to focus on the negative and almost disregard the positive things we do. We actually learn to look for the negative and because its such a strong habit; the positive is ignored. Most of us have been doing this for a long time both on and off the golf course. We are usually our own worst critic and can find something wrong in almost any shot; the good ones and the not so good ones. As long as we continue to focus on the negative we will create additional pressure and tension to our game.
 
It is easy to get upset and frustrated when we miss a short birdie putt but when we make one we dont get all that excited about it. The intensity of our disappointment overshadows any interest or excitement we may have over something positive we do. Why do we do this so easily? It may be because we think that if we focus on the negative it will teach us something. This may sound good but for many people, focusing on the negative turns into more pressure. We may also do it because we find no reason to enjoy or celebrate our good shots; after all, whats the big deal, were supposed to hit them, right?
 
Heres the problem with this kind of approach. When we focus with greater intensity on the negativity we reinforce that in our visual memory AND in our emotional memory. When negative pictures and feelings are accumulated enough over time, nervousness and anxiety builds when we are faced with that same shot. Its as if weve created a shark when there isnt one.
 
The solution and the answer takes practice and repetition. After all, how many times have you repeated the negative response over the years? It has probably been well rehearsed for some time. As with any change, awareness is essential. Start to become aware of:
 
What words you use to describe a situation. Are your first words something negative about a shot, hole or round or yourself? You may be surprised how automatically this happens.
 
Change your first words to something positive. When you aware you can switch to more positive first words on the spot i.e. I hit a great approach shot on this hole; then I just missed the birdie putt.
 
Celebrate your successes! This is a conscious effort on your part to LOOK for things you did well on each hole. Find something to feel good about on any shot, hole or round. If you listen to Tiger Woods or Vijay Singh, they are very willing to tell you the truth if they played a poor shot or hole. Yet, at the same time they are also willing to find something positive about themselves and the round.
 
Cut yourself a break. Slamming yourself doesnt help your game and only adds tension and frustration. Has this ever really helped you play better? Give up the notion that somehow YOU are supposed to be the perfect golfer on the course today and that youre not allowed to hit a poor shot, get a bad break or not play well. None of that matters in comparison to how you RESPOND to those situations!
 
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    Perez skips Torrey, 'upset' with Ryder Cup standings

    By Will GrayJanuary 24, 2018, 2:19 am

    Pat Perez is unhappy about his standing on the U.S. Ryder Cup points list, and his situation won't improve this week.

    Perez won the CIMB Classic during the fall portion of this season, and he followed that with a T-5 finish at the inaugural CJ Cup. But he didn't receive any Ryder Cup points for either result because of a rule enacted by the American task force prior to the 2014 Ryder Cup which only awards points during the calendar year of the biennial matches as well as select events like majors and WGCs during the prior year.

    As a result, Perez is currently 17th in the American points race - behind players like Patrick Reed, Zach Johnson, Bill Haas and James Hahn, none of whom have won a tournament since the 2016 Ryder Cup - as he looks to make a U.S. squad for the first time at age 42.

    "That kind of upset me a little bit, the fact that I'm (17) on the list, but I should probably be (No.) 3 or 4," Perez told Golf Digest. "So it kind of put a bitter taste in my mouth. The fact that you win on the PGA Tour and you beat some good players, yet you don't get any points because of what our committee has decided to do."

    Perez won't be earning any points this week because he has opted to tee it up at the European Tour's Omega Dubai Desert Classic. The decision comes after Perez finished T-21 last week at the Singapore Open, and it means that the veteran is missing the Farmers Insurance Open in his former hometown of San Diego for the first time since 2001.

    Perez went to high school a few minutes from Torrey Pines, and he defeated a field that included Tiger Woods to win the junior world title on the South Course in 1993. His father, Tony, has been a longtime starter on the tournament's opening hole, and Perez was a runner-up in 2014 and tied for fourth last year.

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    Woods favored to miss Farmers Insurance Open cut

    By Will GrayJanuary 24, 2018, 1:54 am

    If the Las Vegas bookmakers are to be believed, folks in the San Diego area hoping to see Tiger Woods this week might want to head to Torrey Pines early.

    Woods is making his first competitive start of the year this week at the Farmers Insurance Open, and it will be his first official start on the PGA Tour since last year's event. He missed nearly all of 2017 because of a back injury before returning with a T-9 finish last month at the Hero World Challenge.

    But the South Course at Torrey Pines is a far different test than Albany, and the Westgate Las Vegas SuperBook lists Woods as a -180 favorite to miss the 36-hole cut. It means bettors must wager $180 to win $100, while his +150 odds to make the cut mean a bettor can win $150 with a $100 wager.

    Woods is listed at 25/1 to win. He won the tournament for the seventh time in 2013, but in three appearances since he has missed the 36-hole cut, missed the 54-hole cut and withdrawn after 12 holes.

    Here's a look at the various Woods-related prop bets available at the Westgate:

    Will Woods make the 36-hole cut? Yes +150, No -180

    Lowest single-round score (both courses par 72): Over/Under 70

    Highest single-round score: Over/Under 74.5

    Will Woods finish inside the top 10? Yes +350, No -450

    Will Woods finish inside the top 20? Yes +170, No -200

    Will Woods withdraw during the tournament? Yes +650, No -1000

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    Monahan buoyed by Tour's sponsor agreements

    By Rex HoggardJanuary 24, 2018, 12:27 am

    SAN DIEGO – Farmers Insurance announced on Tuesday at Torrey Pines a seven-year extension of the company’s sponsorship of the Southern California PGA Tour event. This comes on the heels of Sony extending its sponsorship of the year’s first full-field event in Hawaii through 2022.

    Although these might seem to be relatively predictable moves, considering the drastic makeover of the Tour schedule that will begin with the 2018-19 season, it is a telling sign of the confidence corporations have in professional golf.

    “It’s a compliment to our players and the value that the sponsors are achieving,” Tour commissioner Jay Monahan said.

    Monahan said that before 2014 there were no 10-year title sponsorship agreements in place. Now there are seven events sponsored for 10-years, and another five tournaments that have agreements in place of at least seven years.

    “What it means is, it gives organizations like the Century Club [which hosts this week’s Farmers Insurance Open], when you have that level of stability on a long-term basis that allows you to invest in your product, to grow interest and to grow the impact of it,” Monahan said. “You experienced what this was like in 2010 or seen other tournaments that you don’t know what the future is.S o to go out and sell and inspire a community and you can’t state that we have a long-term agreement it’s more difficult.”

    Events like this year’s Houston Open, Colonial in Fort Worth, Texas, and The National all currently don’t have title sponsors – although officials at Colonial are confident they can piece together a sponsorship package. But even that is encouraging to Monahan considering the uncertainty surrounding next season’s schedule, which will include the PGA Championship moving to May and The Players to March as well as a pre-Labor Day finish to the season.

    “When you look back historically to any given year [the number of events needing sponsors] is lower than the typical average,” Monahan said. “As we start looking to a new schedule next year, you get excited about a great schedule with a great group of partners.”

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    Day WDs from Farmers pro-am because of sore back

    By Golf Channel DigitalJanuary 24, 2018, 12:07 am

    SAN DIEGO – Jason Day has withdrawn from the Wednesday pro-am at the Farmers Insurance Open, citing a sore back.

    Day, the 2015 champion, played a practice round with Tiger Woods and Bryson DeChambeau on Tuesday at Torrey Pines, and he is still expected to play in the tournament.

    Day was replaced in the pro-am by Whee Kim. 

    Making his first start since the Australian Open in November, Day is scheduled to tee off at 1:30 p.m. ET Thursday alongside Jon Rahm and Brandt Snedeker.