A mental game is part of my game and I know its important.
As I teach it, your mental game is not just part of your game, it IS your game and it influences you 100% of the time whether you ever work on it or not. The parts that make up the mental game are your mind, body, emotions and spirit and everybody has them! I call them the 4 Quads and they influence your performance every time you put your hands on the golf club. Try to separate them and you cannot. The 4 Quads are either in sync (you will perform better) or they are out of sync and you can under perform. In fact, they function via a set of very precise and predictable cause and effect Laws responsible for the outcomes you get. This holds true for outcomes both on and off the golf course.
Its only for those who have real problems or struggle.
This is not true. Many people seek to improve themselves and attempt many different ways to achieve that. Unfortunately, some get caught up in the word psychology and the connotations surrounding it. The FlowZone approach is not therapy or psychology and since its based on cause and effect Laws that affect everyone, everyone can benefit, from pro to 35 handicap. Its been my experience that people hesitate to take action in this area because they:
- Had a poor experience in the past with an approach that didnt help
- Keep trying the same approach even with sporadic results
- Think that playing or practicing will straighten things out
Question #1: It sounds a bit vague. What is a Law?
Actually, a law is something quite precise and predictable. I define a law as something that is true for everyone, everywhere and at all times. You are under the influence of cause and effect laws all the time. Here are three examples. Your golf swing is completely guided by the laws of physics. The angle of your club face on impact will predictably cause the ball to react a certain way. When you plant a corn seed in the ground, natural law goes to work to predictably grow corn and nothing else. You are completely under the influence of the law of gravity every day of your life. People easily understand these Laws but fail to realize that THEIR PERFORMANCE is under the same powerful influence of certain Laws as well, (and so is yours!). The incredible reality of these Laws is undeniable and most importantly, they function regardless of your belief, opinion or attitude about them. You can disagree, resist, deny and not even acknowledge them but they will produce outcomes regardless! Can you imagine trying to disagree with gravity? Do you think your opinion has any effect on it? This is what makes the approach and dialogue revolutionary and why I often say the Laws and insights completely remove opinion and theory from the equation.
Question #2: Ive tried so many of them. Why dont tips seem to last?
For most people, using tips is like trying to put out a fire by spraying the top of the flame. Its the difference between treating the symptom rather than finding the cause and curing it. 95% of my clients use tips and discover they dont last very long. Im NOT against tips. In fact, I use them regularly but I want to make people aware that tips are generally not solution based, they are temporary answers. Relying on them as a solution can keep you from seeing how the laws are playing out and how you are causing the things youre trying to cope with in the first place! This becomes a symptomatic approach rather than a curative one.
Because you have a set of beliefs and perceptions already within you, they take over even when you try to implement a new tip. When the old tapes (sabotaging beliefs) are triggered by some event such as a poor shot, negative experience, feeling pressure, your own expectations not being met, perfectionism, etc. old bad habits quickly reassert themselves. At this point, the tip seems to disappear as it is overwhelmed by the negativity of the old habit. The real question is: Are you more interested in treating the symptoms of this process (however you do that) or discovering the source and curing it (the Laws)?
Question #3: But Im looking to be more confident, focus better, reduce stress and negative thinking, etc. Do you help improve these things?
Of course! The key traits people spend so much time struggling to achieve are the ultimate goal; however, clients achieve them in an easier and different way. Because it is based on undeniable Laws that produce results, the conversation and insights are very different from the usual dialogue. A traditional approach focuses on the well known traits like, confidence, focus, self-talk, handling adversity, emotional flexibility, good decision-making, enjoyment, optimism, present time focus, etc. The traits are all great and I dont know anyone who questions them, the real question is: HOW do you demonstrate them more easily? This is the biggest complaint my clients offer, the books tell me about the traits but not how to achieve them. Ive discovered the best and most consistent way is to go directly to the source. The Human Potential and Performance Laws already exist and to avoid them is to avoid the source (you can try to avoid the laws of physics or gravity but they function anyway!). What makes this revolutionary is that you can achieve the traits mentioned above, at a very high level simply by applying the Laws more effectively! This comes as a very pleasant surprise to clients because they finally put an end to their struggle and frustration trying to achieve them in other ways. In addition, clients are not asked to believe anything I say or the findings of research studies or someone elses claims or experience. The proof these Laws exist is already in their personal experience. Thats all they need.
I hope this was your best summer of golf yet!
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