Talking The Talk

By David BreslowNovember 5, 2003, 5:00 pm
How Top Performers Use The Power Of Language
 
Much has been written about walking your talk. This, of course is very important if you want to succeed in anything. However, even before walking your talk, its important to develop your own inner language that propels you to the success youre looking for in sports, business or life!
 
Theres an old expression that says, talk is cheap. The original meaning of this phrase is that talk without action to back it up is worthless. This is true. However, talk is NOT cheap. Talk, as a matter of fact, has a tremendous price tag to it. There is nothing cheap about talk at all.
 
THE POWER OF LANGUAGE
 
The power of the language you use both internally and externally has a high price tag on it. Your words have a power you might not believe right now but trust methey trigger the mind and body into action!
 
One of the most prevalent challenges of coaches and leaders is to change the negative language of their students, players and coworkers. I often hear coaches being frustrated when working with players who tend to be negative about themselves. If theyre not saying it out loud, theyre saying it inside! Everyone knows that positive language is more effective than negative language but they dont necessarily realize what is actually happening in their body when using this kind of self talk.
 
First of all, understand that language communicates. I am communicating right now with you through the use of the written word. You can decide to accept or reject these words. When you say negative words to yourself you are also communicating. You can decide to accept or reject them as well!
 
THE MIND / BODY / PERFORMANCE RELATIONSHIP
 
When you say negative words and phrases you are imprinting your nervous system and muscular system with not only the words but also the emotion behind them. The more you do it, the more of an impression you make on your nervous system and subconscious mind. After a short time these negative phrases become acceptable and repeatable with the slightest trigger (poor shot, uncomfortable situation, etc.). You have literally trained your mind and body to store these negative messages AND release them on command.
 
Whats important to realize is that these implanted words are TOXIC. They will literally reduce your muscle coordination, weaken your nervous system and drain your energy. If you dont believe mejust look back at those times when your negative inner dialogue ran rampant. What did it feel like and how did it affect your performance?
 
The most amazing part of this is that your subconscious mind and body have NO CLUE as to whether youve implanted positive or negative words. Whatever you implant is taken in and stored for you. Dont believe it? Just check out how fast your negative words come firing out. They are repeated over time and have become an unconscious habit. You dont think about themthey just fly out!
 
BREAKING THE PATTERN
 
Language is a habit. For many, negative language has more of an emotional impact than positive language. This is only because weve practiced being negative and feeling negative more than positive. This emotional charge makes language even more powerful. Ultimately, you are the choice maker of the words you use. It might be difficult to change negative words all at once so try the following steps and see if you can begin making changes that will get easier over time.
 
Heres what top performers have learned to do:
 
  1. They understand that language has power and it affects their emotions, actions and outcomes.

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  3. Learn to use constructive language away from the game. Find 3 times in your day to speak positively about yourself.

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  5. Find a buddy who is willing to catch you when you speak in negative terms about yourself (Im no good, Ill probably blow this or I finally did it right!, etc.). Find at least ONE positive thing you did on every hole!

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  7. Journal. Daily journal entries that begin with 3 positive entries.

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  9. Say It Anyway!'players think they are lying when they say something positive and dont feel positive. The truth is that you dont have to feel positive to say it. Underneath your negativity there is a place within you that IS positive and optimistic! Its the part of you that shows up when youre in the zone. Its already there so SAY IT ANYWAY!

Language has great power and remember; your words will impact how you feel, what you do and your outcomes. Be very aware of the words you use and begin questioning your habitual self-criticism. Its only a habit and this habit can be busted!
 
Copyright 2004 David Breslow. David is the author of Wired To Win and offers a highly acclaimed Perform In The FlowZone' program for sports and business. David has appeared on The Golf Channel, ESPN radio, etc. For more programs/services/products or sign up for a free newsletter (write newsletter in subject box). Also, review the new series of Performance Training Manuals available online! Contact: David Breslow at 847.681.1698 Email: David@theflowzone.net or visit the web: www.theflowzone.net For book orders call toll free: 1.888.280.7715
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What's in the bag: CareerBuilder winner Rahm

By Golf Channel DigitalJanuary 22, 2018, 10:37 pm

Jon Rahm defeated Andrew Landry in a playoff to earn his second PGA Tour title at the CareerBuilder Challenge. Here's what's in his bag:

Driver: TaylorMade M4 (9.5 degrees), with Aldila Tour Green 75 TX shaft

Fairway wood: TaylorMade M3 (19 degrees), with Aldila Tour Green 75 TX shaft

Irons: TaylorMade P790 (3), P750 (4-PW), with Project X 6.5 shafts

Wedges: TaylorMade Milled Grind (52, 56 degrees), Milled Grind Hi-Toe (60 degrees), with Project X 6.5 shafts

Putter: TaylorMade Spider Tour Red

Ball: TaylorMade TP5x

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Strange irked by Rahm-Landry friendly playoff

By Jason CrookJanuary 22, 2018, 9:45 pm

Curtis Strange knows a thing or two about winning golf tournaments, and based on his reaction to the CareerBuilder Challenge playoff on Sunday, it’s safe to say he did things a little differently while picking up 17 PGA Tour victories in his Hall-of-Fame career.

While Jon Rahm and Andrew Landry were “battling” through four extra holes, Strange, 62, tweeted his issues with the duo’s constant chit-chat and friendly banter down the stretch at La Quinta Country Club, where Rahm eventually came out on top.

The two-time U.S. Open champ then engaged with some followers to explain his point a little more in depth.

So, yeah ... don't think he's changing his perspective on this topic anytime soon ever.

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Randall's Rant: The Euros won't just roll over

By Randall MellJanuary 22, 2018, 9:36 pm

The Ryder Cup may not be the King Kong of golf events yet, but you can hear the biennial international team event thumping its chest a full eight months out.

As anticipation for this year’s big events goes, there is more buzz about Europe’s bid to hold off a rejuvenated American effort in Paris in September than there is about the Masters coming up in April.

Thank Europe’s phenomenal success last weekend for that.

And Rory McIlroy’s impassioned remarks in Abu Dhabi.

And the provocative bulletin board material a certain Sports Illustrated writer provided the Europeans a couple months ago, with a stinging assault on the Euro chances that read like an obituary.

McIlroy was asked in a news conference before his 2018 debut last week what he was most excited about this year.

The Ryder Cup topped his list.

Though McIlroy will be trying to complete the career Grand Slam at Augusta National come April, he talked more about the Ryder Cup than he did any of the game’s major championships.

When asked a follow-up about the American team’s resurgence after a task-force overhaul and the injection of young, new star power, McIlroy nearly started breaking down the matchup. He talked about the young Americans and how good they are.

“Yeah, the Americans have been, obviously, very buoyant about their chances and whatever, but it’s never as easy as that. ... The Ryder Cup’s always close,” McIlroy said. “I think we’ll have a great team, and it definitely won’t be as easy as they think it’s going to be.”



McIlroy may have been talking about Alan Shipnuck’s bold prediction after the American Presidents Cup rout last fall.

Or similar assertions from TV analysts.

“The Ryder Cup is dead – you just don’t know it yet,” Shipnuck wrote. “One of the greatest events in sport is on the verge of irrelevancy. The young, talented, hungry golfers from the United States, benefitting from the cohesive leadership of the Task Force era, are going to roll to victory in 2018 in Paris.”

European Ryder Cup captain Thomas Bjorn won’t find words that will motivate the Euros more than that as he watches his prospective players jockey to make the team.

And, boy, did they jockey last weekend.

The Euros dominated across the planet, not that they did it with the Ryder Cup as some rallying cry, because they didn’t. But it was a heck of an encouraging start to the year for Bjorn to witness.

Spain’s Jon Rahm won the CareerBuilder Challenge on the PGA Tour, England’s Tommy Fleetwood started the week at Abu Dhabi paired with American and world No. 1 Dustin Johnson and won the European Tour event, and Spain’s Sergio Garcia won the Singapore Open in a rout on the Asian Tour.

And McIlroy looked close to being in midseason form, tying for third in his first start in three months.

Yes, it’s only January, and the Ryder Cup is still a long way off, with so much still to unfold, but you got an early sense from McIlroy how much defending European turf will mean to him and the Euros in Paris in September.

The Masters is great theater, the U.S. Open a rigorous test, The Open and the PGA Championship historically important, too, but the Ryder Cup touches a nerve none of those do.

The Ryder Cup stokes more fervor, provokes more passion and incites more vitriol than any other event in golf.

More bulletin board material, too.

Yeah, it’s a long way off, but you can already hear the Ryder Cup’s King Kong like footsteps in its distant approach. Watching how the American and European teams come together will be an ongoing drama through spring and summer.

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Quail Hollow officials promise players easier conditions

By Rex HoggardJanuary 22, 2018, 9:14 pm

Quail Hollow Club - a staple on the PGA Tour since 2003 - debuted as a longer, tougher version of itself at last year’s PGA Championship, receiving mixed reviews from players.

The course played to a lengthened 7,600 yards at last year’s PGA and a 73.46 stroke average, the toughest course in relation to par on Tour in 2017. As a result, it left some players less than excited to return to the Charlotte, N.C.-area layout later this spring for the Wells Fargo Championship.

It’s that lack of enthusiasm that led officials at Quail Hollow to send a video to players saying, essentially, that the course players have lauded for years will be back in May.

The video, which includes Quail Hollow president Johnny Harris and runs nearly five minutes, begins with an explanation of how the first hole, which played as a 524-yard par 4 at the PGA, will play much shorter at the Wells Fargo Championship.

“I had a number of my friends who were playing in the tournament tell me that tee was better suited as a lemonade stand,” Harris joked of the new tee box on the fourth hole. “I doubt we’ll ever see that tee used again in competition.”

Harris also explained that the greens, which became too fast for some, will be “softer” for this year’s Wells Fargo Championship.