Treat Yourself Like a Winner

By David BreslowNovember 1, 2006, 5:00 pm
Do you treat yourself like a winner on and off the golf course? Part of the problem with this question is that when we see the word winner we might link it to whether we actually won something or not. Treating yourself like a winner has nothing to do with winning anything. Some clients say they will treat themselves more like a winner only when they are playing well. In other words; their results dictate whether they feel like a winner or not. Winning a golf tournament, beating your golf buddy, closing a sale or winning any other event is not the same as treating yourself like a winner; which is something you can do whether you win or not.
I believe we all want to feel like winners yet we dont always treat ourselves like that, do we? When I ask people why they dont treat themselves like winners they say things like, because I keep making mistakes, hit poor shots, miss easy putts, dont play as well as I know I can. They also say, I dont deserve to treat myself that way, I havent earned it yet. If you want to search hard enough you can rationalize any number of reasons not to treat yourself like a winner but being a winner begins with an attitude. Feeling like a winner is a habit that occurs with practice.
Here are some insights and suggestions to get started:
1. Be a winner in your mind and heart first
Do you wait for outcomes to determine whether or not you treat yourself like a winner? Do you say, when I do _____ (fill in the blank), Ill feel good about myself? Of course, our positive results will support and strengthen how we feel about ourselves but using them as the measuring stick can sabotage your efforts. Treat yourself like a winner by thinking and feeling it regardless of outcomes.
2. Consciously look for the good in things
Make a conscious effort to look for reasons to feel good about yourself. On the golf course; find the moments you can celebrate. Did you hit a good drive, make the right decision based on the situation, scramble to make a great par or even bogey? Did you hit a great chip shot (even though you missed the short putt!)? Find something you did that you can feel good about and remember it!
3. Ask yourself: If I wanted to treat myself like a winner; what would I do?
This is a very revealing question. You already know what you could do but sometimes we delay doing it out of fear or other negative habit. What would you do? Would you focus more on your positive qualities/results? Would you say different things to yourself? Would you take different actions (buy that new club, take lessons, find time for yourself, enjoy your golf more, etc.)?
4. Give yourself a break!
Check out your expectations. How realistic are they and how much pressure do you put on yourself because of them? Winners are able to accept whatever the outcome is and then make the necessary adjustments. This doesnt mean you have to like negative outcomes. It means that you are much better off accepting any particular outcome so you can move on more freely. People who dont treat themselves like winners carry a tremendous amount of self-induced pressure, judgments and criticism. Give yourself a break! Criticizing and judging yourself harshly doesnt usually help you play your best or feel like a winner.
Treat yourself like the winner you already are!
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