In Your Own Way

By David BreslowAugust 24, 2005, 4:00 pm
One of the most common statements and complaints I hear from clients is:
If I could only get out of my own way I know Id play better!
Do you ever find yourself muttering this phrase after making a poor club decision, misfiring on a clear approach shot or missing a six foot putt? Do you find this statement emerging when your emotions are churning and you allow anger, lack of confidence or perfectionism to interfere with your ability to play your best? The fact is this statement has more truth to it than a lot of people realize. The truth is if you DID get out of your own way YOU WOULD be in position to play better golf. The challenge most people have is they arent sure HOW to get out of their own way so they keep trying things in the hopes it will eventually happen. It can become a situation that looks like the dog chasing its own tail; spinning around and around after something it cant quite get to!
Many believe the keys to success are hard work, the best equipment and the gathering of as much information as possible. Of course, these things are very important but if these were the only keys more people would be shaving strokes off their game. A lot of people work hard, have great equipment and have loads of information at their disposal. They read a lot of books, buy tapes and attend seminars. So, why might they still not perform up to their true talent level? Its because there remains a big gap between what they KNOW and what they DO. How do you know when youre in your own way?
  • When your mind is over analyzing or running on
  • When you get angry when things dont go your way
  • When frustration/anger interfere with good decision making
  • When lack of confidence appears prior to a shot
  • When you recall negative memories prior to a shot
  • When you try the same approach and expect a different result
    Fixing What's Not Broken
    Many players set out on a journey, and sometimes a very LONG journey for the answer and that one quick-fix tip thats going to get them over the hurdle. We know from our own experience that this approach rarely provides us with the longer term lasting benefit were looking for yet we continue chasing it down. Of course, we keep doing it in our pursuit of excellence. Our quest to improve ourselves and this is always an admirable quality. The real question becomes is what were doing getting us what we want? If it is great! If its not its important to step back and take a look because the goal to improve is a good one but possibly the strategy were using to get there isnt.
    I invite you to take a look at a common misperception I see in many of the golfers and in fact many other clients Ive worked with. I call it the...
    Somethings broken so I need to fix it mindset.
    When people set off on a journey to compile more strategies and more tips to help them perform better they tend to think theres something to fix in themselves. In other words there is an assumption they are broken in some way because somethings not working. It makes perfect sense on the surface. If youre not playing as well as you know you can the solution is to try and fix the problem, right? The problem with this mindset is most people keep trying to fix things that arent really the problem to begin with. Its like an organization in the business world that has internal problems and in order to solve it. They just throw more money at it which is nothing more than applying a band-aid to the problem. It might cover it up but it costs them more in the long run.
    Within the FlowZone philosophy; you dont need to fix anything because you already have the parts you need to play your best golf. Some people would actually rather believe they need to fix themselves than believe theyre already equipped with everything they need. This mindset is an illusion and will keep a person chasing their own tail. Heres a metaphor to demonstrate this. I call it the Elite Racing Engine. A finely tuned racing engine is loaded with elite parts. When those parts run smoothly they operate in a very efficient manner. When there is any obstruction or disruption in the process this high performing engine begins to under perform, right? One part of the engine works harder to overcompensate, it will eat up more fuel than it normally would and generally perform at less than peak efficiency. Heres the question:
    When this engine underperforms; are the parts no longer elite?
    The answer is the parts are still elite. Just because the engine underperforms doesnt mean the parts are no longer elite, theyre just not operating effectively together. I believe this process is the same for us. You already have elite parts within you. When you under perform your parts arent broken nor are they less elite, theyre just not operating together efficiently!
    The FlowZone approach is based on fundamental laws and principles that allow your elite parts to function more effectively. Most golfers dont need more information. They already have far too much mental clutter as it is. Heres the proof. If youve ever experienced the zone you know its a state where your elite parts are operating beautifully and its also a state of lessnot more!
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    Cabreras win PNC Father/Son Challenge

    By Associated PressDecember 17, 2017, 11:36 pm

    ORLANDO, Fla. - Angel Cabrera and Angel Cabrera Jr. closed with a 12-under 60 for a three-shot victory in their debut at the PNC Father/Son Challenge.

    The Cabreras opened with a 59 at The Ritz-Carlton Golf Club and were challenged briefly by the defending champions, David Duval and Nick Karavites, in the scramble format Sunday. The Argentines went out in 30, and they had a two-shot lead with Cabrera's son came within an inch of chipping in for eagle on the final hole.

    They finished at 25-under 199 for a three-shot victory over Duval and Karavites, and Bernhard Langer and Jason Langer. The Langer team won in 2014.

    Mark O'Meara and Shaun O'Meara tied for fourth at 21 under with Jerry Pate and Wesley Pate.

    Cabrera wasn't even in the field until two-time U.S. Open champion Curtis Strange and his son, Tom Strange, had to withdraw.

    Duval and his stepson went out in 28, but the Cabreras regained control by starting the back nine with back-to-back birdies, and then making birdies on the 13th, 14th and 16th. The final birdie allowed them to tie the tournament scoring record.

    ''This is certain my best week of the year,'' said Cabrera, the 2009 Masters champion and 2007 U.S. Open champion at Oakmont. ''To play alongside all the legends ... as well as playing alongside my son, has been the greatest week of the year.''

    The popular event is for players who have won a major championship or The Players Championship. It is a scramble format both days.

    In some cases, the major champions lean on the power of their sons for the distance. O'Meara said Saturday that his ''little man'' hit it 58 yards by him on the 18th. And on Sunday, Stewart Cink said son Reagan told him after outdriving him on the opening four holes, ''In this tournament I may be your son, but right now I'm your Daddy!''

    Jack Nicklaus played with his grandson, G.T. They closed with a 64 and tied for 15th in the field of 20 teams.

    Rose wins; Aphibarnrat earns Masters bid in Indonesia

    By Will GrayDecember 17, 2017, 1:59 pm

    Justin Rose continued his recent run of dominance in Indonesia, while Kiradech Aphibarnrat snagged a Masters invite with some 72nd-hole dramatics.

    Rose cruised to an eight-shot victory at the Indonesian Masters, carding bookend rounds of 10-under 62 that featured a brief run at a 59 during the final round. The Englishman was the highest-ranked player in the field and he led wire-to-wire, with Thailand's Phachara Khongwatmai finishing second.

    Rose closes out the year as perhaps the hottest player in the world, with top-10 finishes in each of his final 10 worldwide starts. That stretch includes three victories, as Rose also won the WGC-HSBC Champions and Turkish Airlines Open. He hasn't finished outside the top 10 in a tournament since missing the cut at the PGA Championship.

    Meanwhile, it took until the final hole of the final tournament of 2017 for Aphibarnrat to secure a return to the Masters. The Thai entered the week ranked No. 56 in the world, with the top 50 in the year-end world rankings earning invites to Augusta National. Needing an eagle on the 72nd hole, Aphibarnrat got just that to snag solo fifth place.

    It means that he is projected to end the year ranked No. 49, while Japan's Yusaku Miyazato - who started the week ranked No. 58 and finished alone in fourth - is projected to finish No. 50. Aphibarnrat finished T-15 in his Masters debut in 2016, while Miyazato will make his first appearance in the spring.

    The results in Indonesia mean that American Peter Uihlein and South Africa's Dylan Frittelli are projected to barely miss the year-end, top-50 cutoff. Their options for Masters qualification will include winning a full-point PGA Tour event in early 2018 or cracking the top 50 by the final March 25 cutoff.

    Cabreras take 1-shot lead in Father/Son

    By Associated PressDecember 16, 2017, 11:23 pm

    ORLANDO, Fla. - Two-time major champion Angel Cabrera and Angel Cabrera Jr. birdied their last three holes for a 13-under 59 to take a one-shot lead Saturday in the PNC Father-Son Challenge.

    Cabrera, a Masters and U.S. Open champion, is making his debut in this popular 36-hole scramble. His son said he practiced hard for 10 days. What helped put him at ease was watching his father make so many putts.

    ''We combined very well,'' Cabrera said. ''When I hit a bad shot, he hit a good one. That's the key.''

    They had a one-shot lead over Mark O'Meara and Shaun O'Meara, who are playing for the first time. That included a birdie on the last hole, which O'Meara attributed to the strength of his son.

    ''My little man hit it 58 yards by me on the 18th,'' said O'Meara, the Masters and British Open champion in 1998. ''It's a little easier coming in with a 6-iron.''

    Defending champions David Duval and Nick Karavites rallied over the back nine at the Ritz-Carlton Golf Club for a 61. They are trying to become the first father-son team to repeat as winners since Bernhard and Stefan Langer in 2006. Larry Nelson won two years in a row in 2007 and 2008, but with different sons.

    ''I'd imagine we have to break 60 tomorrow to have a chance to win, but hey, stranger things have happened,'' Duval said. ''I've even done it myself.''

    Duval shot 59 at the Bob Hope Classic to win in 1999 on his way to reaching No. 1 in the world that year.

    Duval and his stepson were tied with Bernhard Langer and 17-year-old Jason Langer, who made two eagles on the last five holes. This Langer tandem won in 2014.

    Jack Nicklaus, playing with grandson G.T., opened with a 68.

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    Woods' 2018 schedule coming into focus ... or is it?

    By Golf Channel DigitalDecember 16, 2017, 5:46 pm

    Two weeks after his successful return to competition at the Hero World Challenge, Tiger Woods’ 2018 schedule may be coming into focus.

    Golfweek reported on Saturday that Woods hopes to play the Genesis Open in February according to an unidentified source with “direct knowledge of the situation.”

    Woods’ agent Mark Steinberg declined to confirm the 14-time major champion would play the event and told that Woods – who underwent fusion surgery to his lower back in April – is still formulating his ’18 schedule.

    Woods’ foundation is the host organization for the Genesis Open and the event supports the Tiger Woods Learning Center in Anaheim, Calif.

    The Genesis Open would be Woods’ first start on the PGA Tour since he missed the cut last January at the Farmers Insurance Open.