And now todays article
Do you treat yourself like a winner? Do you feel like a winner? 85% of my clients answer this by saying sometimes or not as often as Id like.
Many of my clients dont feel like winners as often as theyd like because they set their expectations at such a high level that feeling like a winner becomes difficult. As a result of these high and often unrealistic expectations they experience disappointment, frustration and pressure. This results in self-condemnation, self-criticism and heavy handed judgments like, I should be better, I never hit that shot well and I always make that mistake. Whats wrong with me?
Feeling like a winner begins from within. Here are 3 suggestions to consider:
1. Feel good first
People who feel like winners feel this way before they play a round of golf. They feel good about themselves as individuals and take this feeling into whatever they do. They are able to separate performance confidence from personal confidence. They dont wait for something good to happen, they feel good first. Feeling good is a choice and is not predicated on anything else
2. Dont let outcomes dictate your self worth
Winners realize they are not their outcomes. Many of my clients feel frustrated because they actually think they are their outcomes. If the outcomes are good; they feel good. If the outcomes are bad they feel bad. This makes playing a round of golf (or anything else) very difficult and certainly not much fun. For some, a bad shot immediately turns into something personal like, Im a bad golfer. You are not the results of your shots.
3. Appreciate the big picture
Winners dont get stuck hanging on to one shot, hole or round because they have learned to keep an eye on the bigger picture. They understand that their journey will bring ups, downs and obstacles as a natural part of the process. This appreciation creates an inner sense of well-being because they know that situations will come and go and therefore they dont have to be stuck on any of them. Chip Beck, who endured several years of frustration and disappointment, never took his eyes off the big picture. Through all the ups and downs, the struggle and the sacrifice, the big picture was never far from his view. He always led me to believe that he expected to play golf at a high level again. Now, Chip is enjoying the fruits of his patience and faith as a member of the Champions Tour and hes truly enjoying playing the game he loves!
Feel like a winner today
To Your Best Golf!