Skeptics Welcome


While we are all looking forward to yet another fantastic Masters event Im sure there is no shortage of material offering wonderful stories, inspiration and more on the psychology of what it takes to win such a special event.
So instead, Id like to take a few moments of your time to welcome the skeptic to emerge and address the kinds of questions I hear when speaking to an audience made up of golfers of all levels. This is taken from a live event and reveals the actual questions and my responses to them.
A brief introduction. The audience is there to hear a talk about the Mental Game. However, they are about to hear things that go against their years of learning about what a Mental Game really is. I begin by informing them they will not hear the usual pieces of repetitive advice such as, be confident, positive, have a great attitude and dont be attached to your outcomes. I inform them that they can get this information from any book in the library and that Im there to tell them about the TRUTH about how to perform their best. I also inform them that In fact, 85% of the clients who use these kinds of quick-fix tips tell me that they, dont last.
As the reader of this articleyou probably know this from your own experience as well. Please note that I am not against tipsbutalso realize that they are not the solutionthey are often just temporary solutions. The real question is: how do you achieve the experiences you want more easily and have them last longer? This is the only question that really matters. Teaching the Performance Laws I talk about accomplishes this. At the end of the presentation--here are some actual questions I was asked and my responses to them.
I read a lot of books on peak performance and the mental game. Are you telling me that applying the tips I learn from them isnt all that beneficial?
No. Im suggesting that applying the tips doesnt provide you with the long term solution youre looking for. Please understand that the tips are all good. Obviously its important to be confident and positive but you already know that, dont you? The question is: how long does that tip last for you? Most people report that the tips they apply dont last that long. This is the problem Im talking about and even though youre asking the questionyou already know this from your own experience. Why not apply something that not only helps you experience confidence more quickly but that also helps you experience it more consistently. The problem with the quick fix approach is that it does what its named fora QUICK-FIXwhich means that its only meant to be temporarywhich is usually what it is.
You mentioned that coping leads to mediocrity and that you dont help any of your clients become better copers. Ive always been taught that coping mechanisms were the way to get back on track. Now youre saying their not?
Clearlyonce you understand what coping really means, you see why I say it leads to mediocrity. Remember, I mentioned earlier that the synonyms for the word cope are; to get by, to deal with, to manage, to muddle through and to survive. Is this really what your goal is? Do you find that acceptable? I dont know anyone who looks forward to doing any of those things and this is why I have no intention of helping a client cope better. Looking for coping skills is just another uninvestigated habit that many people slip into. They do it because they always do it and that doesnt mean its effectiveit merely means that its comfortable. Yet, when people hear those synonyms I mentionedthey have no desire to cope any more! Im more interested in teaching them the simple skills to stop coping and start generating more of what they really want.
I feel tension over approach shots. What should I do?
This is a very common type of question. It begins with an issue of some kind and is then followed by the question, what should I do? I know that what Im sharing with you goes against your traditional way of seeing things. The question you just asked is really looking for a quick-fix answerisnt it? (he nods yes) and this is what so many golfers look foreven after they hear this presentation and they KNOW the quick fix answer doesnt get them what they really want! I understand the questionafter all'this is what you see in books, articles television shows and so on. Sothe quick-fix answer to your question is this; breathe, recall a positive memory, think more positively and tell yourself, I can do this. There. That is the traditional kind of answer to that question. All of this is good advice, right? Heres the problem. You may or may not be successful in applying this. If you areyour success could very well be sporadicmeaning youve found a way to deal with the speed bump facing you with this particular chip shot but you have not truly gone to the root cause for your long term solution. And what is the root cause solution? They are the Laws Ive been talking about. They are the root cause factors that not only raise your awareness, but explain the WHY and the HOW you get what you want more oftenwhich is to play at the high end of your skill level.
You said that you rarely have a formal conversation about confidence and being positive and so on. That sounds so strangehow do your clients achieve that if you dont address it?
Here againyour question comes from the traditional mindset about how working with a mental game coach or sports psychologist is supposed to go. In 20 years Ive never once suggested to a client to be more positive or confident. The reason? They already know that being confident or positive is better than NOT being confident or positive so why repeat what they already know? You already know this as well, dont you? (she nods yes). Do you want to pay me to tell you what you already know? (she says, NO) Heres where people have a difficult time believing it. I tell everyone that if you learn the simple laws and start applying themthat they will notice that confidence, present time focus, enjoyment, better choices, be tougher, compete better and generally be more successfulALL SHOW UP AS AN AUTOMATIC BY-PRODUCT OF APPLYING THE LAWS. This is what many people find hard to believe. They wonder, could it really be that simple? and the answer is YES. Again, I know this flies in the face of what youve learned for years but this doesnt mean its not true.
Sowhat are the laws?
Wellthis is a short presentation. In a workshop or in personal coaching I could share this with you in more detail. However, please know this. The Laws themselves are not rocket science. They have simple titles like the Law of Cause and Effect, The Law of Focused Energy and The Law of Mental Focus along with others. You can see that these titles are nothing special in and of themselves. The magic lies in the conversation and the insights I teach. The conversation does not revolve around psychological research, vague tips (like be confident) or hard to untangle theories. The conversation provides you with the proof the laws are real, the insights that wake you up and the result is; you change the way you see yourself and the game.
The first law I teach is this: The more honest you are with yourself; the quicker you see results.
This is a law because its true for everyone, everywhere and at all times. Nobody is immune and there are no exceptions. This is why I like working with the Lawsthey remove your and my opinion and theory from the equation. They function no matter what you and I think! In fact, your belief is not even necessary. Do you have to believe in gravity for gravity to happen? Of course not. Its the same with the Performance Laws. So. This law states that what you are willing to seeyou can change. What you are not willing to seeyou have no shot at changing. Somy question to you is. Are you willing to see that what youve been doing is not getting you the results you want? (the man nods yes). This is an important question. If youve tried a number of tips, read books, or have had unsatisfying work with a coach or sports psychologist over the years and yet still feel like you can be better. it is important to be honest with yourselfabout yourself. This is a common question I pose to prospective clients because I want to knowthat THEY are ready to admit to themselves that what theyve been doing is not working for them. If they can admit thisI tell them we can now fly forward and their journey will be much easier! This is never a problem because when people contact me theyve usually tried almost everything else anyway and are frustrated.
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