In Your Own Way


One of the most common statements and complaints I hear from clients is:
If I could only get out of my own way I know Id play better!
Do you ever find yourself muttering this phrase after making a poor club decision, misfiring on a clear approach shot or missing a six foot putt? Do you find this statement emerging when your emotions are churning and you allow anger, lack of confidence or perfectionism to interfere with your ability to play your best? The fact is this statement has more truth to it than a lot of people realize. The truth is if you DID get out of your own way YOU WOULD be in position to play better golf. The challenge most people have is they arent sure HOW to get out of their own way so they keep trying things in the hopes it will eventually happen. It can become a situation that looks like the dog chasing its own tail; spinning around and around after something it cant quite get to!
Many believe the keys to success are hard work, the best equipment and the gathering of as much information as possible. Of course, these things are very important but if these were the only keys more people would be shaving strokes off their game. A lot of people work hard, have great equipment and have loads of information at their disposal. They read a lot of books, buy tapes and attend seminars. So, why might they still not perform up to their true talent level? Its because there remains a big gap between what they KNOW and what they DO. How do you know when youre in your own way?
  • When your mind is over analyzing or running on
  • When you get angry when things dont go your way
  • When frustration/anger interfere with good decision making
  • When lack of confidence appears prior to a shot
  • When you recall negative memories prior to a shot
  • When you try the same approach and expect a different result
    Fixing What's Not Broken
    Many players set out on a journey, and sometimes a very LONG journey for the answer and that one quick-fix tip thats going to get them over the hurdle. We know from our own experience that this approach rarely provides us with the longer term lasting benefit were looking for yet we continue chasing it down. Of course, we keep doing it in our pursuit of excellence. Our quest to improve ourselves and this is always an admirable quality. The real question becomes is what were doing getting us what we want? If it is great! If its not its important to step back and take a look because the goal to improve is a good one but possibly the strategy were using to get there isnt.
    I invite you to take a look at a common misperception I see in many of the golfers and in fact many other clients Ive worked with. I call it the...
    Somethings broken so I need to fix it mindset.
    When people set off on a journey to compile more strategies and more tips to help them perform better they tend to think theres something to fix in themselves. In other words there is an assumption they are broken in some way because somethings not working. It makes perfect sense on the surface. If youre not playing as well as you know you can the solution is to try and fix the problem, right? The problem with this mindset is most people keep trying to fix things that arent really the problem to begin with. Its like an organization in the business world that has internal problems and in order to solve it. They just throw more money at it which is nothing more than applying a band-aid to the problem. It might cover it up but it costs them more in the long run.
    Within the FlowZone philosophy; you dont need to fix anything because you already have the parts you need to play your best golf. Some people would actually rather believe they need to fix themselves than believe theyre already equipped with everything they need. This mindset is an illusion and will keep a person chasing their own tail. Heres a metaphor to demonstrate this. I call it the Elite Racing Engine. A finely tuned racing engine is loaded with elite parts. When those parts run smoothly they operate in a very efficient manner. When there is any obstruction or disruption in the process this high performing engine begins to under perform, right? One part of the engine works harder to overcompensate, it will eat up more fuel than it normally would and generally perform at less than peak efficiency. Heres the question:
    When this engine underperforms; are the parts no longer elite?
    The answer is the parts are still elite. Just because the engine underperforms doesnt mean the parts are no longer elite, theyre just not operating effectively together. I believe this process is the same for us. You already have elite parts within you. When you under perform your parts arent broken nor are they less elite, theyre just not operating together efficiently!
    The FlowZone approach is based on fundamental laws and principles that allow your elite parts to function more effectively. Most golfers dont need more information. They already have far too much mental clutter as it is. Heres the proof. If youve ever experienced the zone you know its a state where your elite parts are operating beautifully and its also a state of lessnot more!
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